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Feel like you want more out of life? practice gratitude!

There have been many times in my life that I have been discontent. Most of those times there was a very important aspect of life that I was not focusing on. That was GRATITUDE! 

Many years ago, about three to be exact I realized how much of a complainer I was. I complained about everything all the time. If my friend complained about their husband not doing something around the house, I made sure they knew how much worse mine was. If things were going OK between me and my husband i'd sneak in a sparky complain. It could have been something I noticed years ago, or the way he answered me when I asked a question. I was honestly awful. And I had no idea it was my thing. 
One day my husband and I got into an argument. I had planned a dinner date with my girls and no one took it serious. In my head it was all planned out. We were going to have dinner and drinks and it was going to be great. However in their heads they had never fully agreed on anything. My girls bailed, with good reasons, they were working late or taking care of their kids, or going on a date night with their significant other. I was so pissed off that I started complaining to him.... about him. I told him I wanted to go with my girls to complain about him in peace. "With my friends I can go and complain all I want and they'll listen" I told him. He turned to me with a sad and confused face and said "it would suck to be your friend then. If all you do is complain to them I wouldn't wanna hang out with you either"
Ouch! That fucking hurt... bad! I cried and told him to leave me alone. But deep down I knew it was true. Complaining wasn't getting me anywhere it was dampening my spirit and probably my friends too. I have never asked them what they thought about my constant complaining. I'm guessing the same thing my husband thought. From that day on I went on a quest to find a better way to live. I wanted to be more positive, I wanted to bring in good vibes, good energy, healthy relationships.
So like I always do I went to YouTube to find information. I found people like Les Brown, Tony Robbins, Mel Robin's, Tom Bilyeu and the great Myles Monroe. I also listened to podcasts like Coffee and Crumbles. 
Listening to these people talk made me realize something. 
1. I had to quit complaining 
 2.I was very ungrateful. I had so many great things but still didn't feel any gratitude. I had a lack of mentality and I needed to figure out why so I could fix it.

I grew up in a farming family in a small town in Mexico, like 200 people at the most small. I moved to the states when I was 7 years old with my mom and little sister. Life had been a struggle most of my childhood. I was in charge of translating, making phone calls and filling out paperwork for my mom sense I was 9. I didn't realize that doing all of these things had left me with such a negative attitude. I was stressed most of the time, put in situations I wasn't qualified to deal with. I knew all of our financial struggles, I was the one facing them with my mom.

This made me grow up thinking of all the things we lacked and needed, instead of being grateful for the things we had. I had to rewire my brain to live in gratitude. It sounds easy but it's not. It has taken much effort to stay away from people who don't bring out the good in me or simply to keep a positive mindset.I still have weeks when life just sucks, when I can't get my shit together and remember all the good things I have in my life. Social media doesn't help much either. 

Living in a state of gratitude is something that needs to be worked on all the time. You have to remind yourself of how grateful you are for the good and the bad in your life. You have to look at the hard times as times as lessons and not struggles. The hard times shape you, they allow you to discover something new about yourself, learn new skills, find new people. Hard times are what makes life such a joy, so practice being grateful for the hard times and try finding the silver lining. 

Helpful Advice 
Read self help/ personal growth books
Have a gratitude journal that you write on every morning or night, whichever is best for you. 
Listen to empowering podcasts I suggest On Purpose by Jay Shetty
Subscribe to inspiring YouTube channels and listen to them every morning. Do good for others everyday and take time to slow down and be in the present moment. 



Wishing you the best 💗
B.


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